A Few Ways to Identify You're Jeopardizing Your Desires
It's funny when we tell ourselves and even others we will get what we want or that we won't jeopardize the desires of our hearts for anyone but magically end up in relationships we have no business in. Please, I cant be only one that has been there. Well let me share a few ways I was I can now see how I ended up in these situations (yes more than once)!
Time wasted...
1. Red flags. Suddenly the things he said he didn't do he did. It's almost like having the bait right at the end of the pole and being pulled in from how delicious it looks. But even after tasting it and knowing it doesn't taste as good, yet we stick around for more? Why?
2. It goes against what God wants for us. I'll be transparent, I am someone who desires to wait before marriage (no virgin here) but I want to do it God's way. Because for me knowing that sex isn't involved wont cloud myself & him on getting to know each other. I can really see him for who he is and be placed in different situations and around others that will allow me to see if this is something I should continue to give my attention to.
3. No chemistry/Drift away. So this is something that may not be able to be avoided depending on if you're overlooking the "red flags" or different "signs." In the beginning you can usually tell if you vibe with someone before making it official, but then there's times when I guess we just play stupid.
4. You're a hidden secret. Have you met his family? Why be in a relationship with someone that won't even show you off. You're a gem Queen, you're rare. Knowing that you want to have a peacefully and loving relationship with his friends & family but somehow you have yet to meet the important people in his life.
5. You keep him hidden from your circle. It goes both was sometimes but I believe us women tend to do things like this to save the individual from their judgement. Knowing that you're settling they will 9/10 have something to say about the person (whether they like the person or not). This is also a great way for others to see things we sometimes overlook that they can assist us in identifying.