Level Up Journey: Identifying Triggers and Trauma in Dating

Hey Girl Hey

As I am on this journey and had time to reflect on things I want to discuss some of the unnecessary things we may deal with or come across when dating. I’ve noticed when it comes to dating certain black men, there are things they do that trigger me. Some of you maybe thinking (well this can happen with other men) I am talking about from MY experience. You can leave yours in the comment section below.

When it’s time to communicate certain things it’s almost like walking on eggshells due to their unknown reaction. The reaction is usually aggressive, loud and hurtful. Even those most feminine woman cannot stop one from honestly communicating. manner they are use to or feel is acceptable. Then, when you try to respond after listening what seems to be one expressing themselves it begins to be verbal abuse.

Dang, did I just say that? Am I really recognizing this as such? I never thought of it like that. I can say I’ve dealt with similar traits from three black guys I have dated, and I’ve dated more than three, so leave the weird comments outside.

We as women tend to “do the work” but are left to deal with the unhealed. I truly want to do better with not only weeding out these type of guys but to be ok with leaving them where they are after the first time. There is really no reason to see if this is who they are.

I’m in a season where grace is needed and if those that want to be attached can’t offer it, I will have to be “the bad guy” and just leave.

I truly hope through this season/series there is someone out there that will really put themselves first and love on you as you should. Don’t ignore the signs sis